You are an amazing human being.
You bring your heart forward to people you love, but perhaps you don’t always feel like you’re able to help them as much as you’d like.
Luminous Listening is a powerful technique here to help as we explore the letter L in my A to Z Alchemy series.
Imagine that someone you care about is talking to you. They’re stressed and you want to help. I’ll bet your attention is focused intently on them as you listen with all your might to what they’re saying. You’re probably caught up in the surface content of what they’re sharing, thinking if you listen hard enough you can help them problem solve.
I’ll also bet in these moments that your heart rate and blood pressure increase, your jaws and stomach get tight and your breathing gets shallow. In your deep desire to connect and be of service, you have very likely allowed them to become the emotional leader and followed them into their stress.
Stop. Catch yourself. You have a totally positive intention to help them, and I promise there is a better way to achieve the result you want more quickly and easily.