Want to know if a relationship is worth the energy you’re investing in it?
Ask this one question:
Do they consistently honor the light in your eyes and the passion in your soul?
Because YOU ARE WORTH HONORING, and anyone who doesn’t support that which lights you up from the inside doesn’t deserve much real estate in your life.
They don’t need to love the same things…they don’t even need to understand what sparks your soulfire…but they DO need to be able to notice and appreciate the life-giving alchemy of expanding with authenticity into our world.
I see you in my mind’s eye – shining with the sacred flame burning within.
I marvel at the ways you keep showing up to tend your people and projects with heart and soulfulness.
Yet I know sometimes it feels like TOO DAMN MUCH.
Maybe, as a gifted client revealed a few days ago, you have a fantasy of hitting the open road and not coming back – maybe ever – certainly not ’til you’re good and ready. Despite the love you hold for your home, family, and colleagues.
Do you know why?
Because your Soulfire is craving nourishment so you can keep showing up in the amazing ways you do…while living in alignment with your essential self.
So if you’re exhausted from taking care of everyone else, this is your invitation to discover a better way to live.
It’s time to feel held and supported in the sacred journey of YOUR life!
I’m reaching out to kiss the part of you that cannot be contained.
I happen to know that, like me, you have some version of my crazy little curl.
One you try to cover up, tuck in, or shove into some socially acceptable space. Except that it will never, EVER, stay in place for long. I tucked this curl back into position tens of thousands of times before realizing it has been communicating something important. At which point, I took this photo BECAUSE I WANT YOU TO EMBRACE YOUR “CURL.”
You have alchemy inside your soul.
And as you’ve noticed, alchemy doesn’t conform to much of anything we were taught growing up.
THIS is what I love most about you – the magical element of your being that insists on growing in its own perfect way.
So, darling, what is YOUR “curl?”What part of you doesn’t fit in? Where can you use support witnessing your own unique beauty? Comment below to share what you can embrace rather than push away.
Because the more genuine compassion you offer your WHOLE self, the more life energy will be available for creating magic in your life!
Coming Soon! Join me for a very special experience at the historic Davenport Hotel in Spokane, WA on September 21st, 2019.
Alchemy LIVE will provide the precise tools you need to connect with your inner alchemist and kiss fear, doubt and confusion goodbye while moving into clarity, confidence and strength no matter what adventures arise in your sacred journey of life.
You will discover how to recognize the gold within, embrace life as an adventure, create sacred space and partner with the benevolent forces of the Universe. You will also transform your communication through the power of deep listening, grow stronger with truth-telling, reap hearty benefits from the Stillness Solution, open your spirit to initiation with the twin gatekeepers of courage and respect, and harness the alchemy of appreciation.
Every time I’ve emerged from intensely soul-testing experiences, I’ve done so with fierce determination to distill the alchemy that provided safe passage, and offer it with open hands to ease the paths of the next travelers. Now I have the incredible honor of being able to help you reawaken into a life of greater freedom, aliveness, and possibility!
Interested?Email me today at christy @ thealchemistsheart.com with YES in the subject line. I’ll send you more information once the beautiful details are ready!
How does Christy hide her wings? I’m convinced that she’s part angel, part mystical fairy—both of which combine to make her a gifted healer.
She can instantly transform any space, virtual or in-person, into a safe and sacred space where those struggling can be welcomed, guided, and transformed through her alchemy. I don’t know how she does it, I’m just so grateful she does.
“Dear Christy, you are a godsend, an angel. You appeared to me right when I needed you and I am beyond grateful for the time you took to help me and the love you poured into it. You helped me get clear on many things which led me into the healing process. I was really in a depression when you came into my life and the transition that took place through your alchemy work was miraculous to say the least. Your guidance and wisdom opened my eyes to see even more of my path. I am now pushing forward on that path. I have taken your advice and couldn’t be more happy. Thank you, thank you, thank you.”
Owner / www.tamargail.com
“I think of Christy as an amazing balance between a power force and a highly enlightened light worker.
She combines a deep understanding of the spiritual and emotional issues in your life with a talent for giving you tangible, practical, easily do-able solutions that you can use to make things better right away.
Christy definitely hears what you’re saying and really gets what you’re going through.
But, then she makes a point of saying “Okay, this is exactly what you can do to make your life easier.
Go out and try these one or two things and report back.” And I really like that Christy’s style is never rigid.
She’s not invested in her own particular system or structure. Instead, she says “Here’s what I know works.
Make this your own, come back and tell me how it went, and we’ll make adjustments and tweaks so it’s perfect for you.
” I would definitely recommend Christy’s services to anyone who wants to create space in their own life and reconnect to what matters.
She gives you the tools you need to create something that is amazing. At the end of the day, she helps you transform, you just have to go out do it!”
I bet you think no one is looking…while you are tapping into a deep reservoir of strength to bolster your resolve…speaking with courageous clarity rather than letting corrosive comments slide…choosing integrity over comfort, painfully aware that your voice speaks for all those who cannot be heard.
I am grateful every day for the thousand ways you show up in our world, quietly choosing again…and again…to bring compassion and understanding into conversations rife with peril. Telling the truth, sharing creative ideas, asking for that which will work better while refusing to attack the character of the people around you. After all, it is the tiny, consistent choices that build the foundation of our lives…and have the power to transform the mightiest structures in society.
I offer you the gift of gratitude, the knowledge that you are seen with love, and this alchemical video from Brandi Carlile. Nominated for 6 Grammy Awards, it appears Brandi burst into stardom out of nowhere. In reality, this powerhouse been writing and playing her heart out for twenty years. Hailing from a town of less than 1,000 souls, she’s held fast to her spirit, refusing to be swayed by the opinions of the masses…and now we are privileged to witness her song, “The Joke”, vibrating the sinews of courage and faith throughout our world.
May your spirit be bouyed…and your faith in humanity…as you watch, listen, and perhaps, if you are like me, weep with gratitude.
Her big eyes searching my face, I couldn’t hold her gaze.
Head down, I was ashamed I couldn’t answer her question.
“Mom, can we have a whole day together to just do fun things? We can eat our favorite goodies and not have you do any work at all?”
My head spun.
I was recovering from the flu and exhausted after a long day tending beloved clients with enormous stressors. I’d pushed too hard, but my heart was determined to serve.
Now my daughter needed me, but all I could think was “An entire day off? How on Earth can I do that?” It’s not practical! There’s too much to do!
And then she threw in the clincher….”Mom? This is what I want for Christmas.”
This should have been easy.
She is 13 years old.
She still wants to spend time with me.
It really doesn’t get any better than that.
I am blessed beyond measure, but Goddess help me, I STILL couldn’t give her an unequivocal yes.
Instead of looking into her eyes and assuring her I would ABSOLUTELY grant her wish, all I could manage was to say “Honey, I hear you, I know this matters and I’ll work on it.”
Not a proud moment….but a human one.
TIME and attention are our most precious commodities.
We are so damn busy whilst starving for human connection.
I know this.
I teach the importance of being truly present with each other.
And yet I couldn’t walk my talk.
So I asked myself how I would feel about this years from now.
Would I regret not being able to give this incredible daughter a simple day together? Teaching through my actions that she didn’t matter as much as all the other things that needed tending?
The answer was a resounding YES.
I resolved to get some sleep, clear my head, and choose with wisdom.
Now I’m writing you this embarrassing but absolutely true love letter.
Because I suspect I’m not the only one in need of this lesson.
In 20 short minutes, I’ll be picking her up from school, where I will thank her for making the request. I will assure her that not only will I follow through on this for Christmas, but REGULARLY, if she desires.
Because I get a second chance to choose again.
And Dearheart, so do you.
As long as you are breathing, you get to re-decide. And choosing again is one of our most potent tools for change.
Alchemy at its finest! I was right smack in the middle of a live video coaching session when this amazing autumnal aspen fluttered her sun-dappled leaves, captivating my heart.
My client had just shared a painful conversation in which her partner was more interested in whether the clothes were reliably cleared off the top of the dresser than in connecting emotionally.
I suppose another coach might have launched into a proper intervention.
I did nothing of the sort.
Something RADIANT was happening, so I asked her to wait for a moment.
Grabbing my camera, I climbed right on top of my desk so I could get the best angles. Because when the Universe says Come Play With Me, I do. I highly recommend you do, too. Something good ALWAYS comes from it.
With glistening eyes and a buoyed spirit, I returned to the conversation with exactly the message my client needed to hear.
You see, at the heart of her challenge was the idea that as a responsible adult, there was no room left for experiencing daily magic.
That somehow, if she just buckled down, she might somehow discover a deep longing to generate financial spreadsheets and a passion for having a home that was perfectly tidy all the time.
And those messy, inconvenient art projects her spirit is prone to wander into? They could be set aside for “someday” when it might be more practical for them to be tended to.
Except that none of these ideas fit.
The truth is that her partner fell in love with her BECAUSE of her creative spirit. And being open to the tiny, magical moments doesn’t mean being irresponsible, it means being ALIVE! And there is more than enough space in their lives to accommodate what each of them needs most.
So this, Dearheart, is a call to being ALIVE – and to EMBRACING whatever it is in your life that people around you might not understand. Chances are extremely high they have simply forgotten how to re-member (to put back together) their own essential selves….and the answer is NOT for you to shrink down to more “manageable” proportions, but to step into your own alchemical power and REMEMBER your own uniquely magical qualities….which, in turn, will help them remember theirs.
If you can use more tiny, magical moments as you create a life that is big enough and beautiful enough for your spirit, come play with me! I am opening up TWO spots (yes, only two!) for 6 months of private coaching. If you are interested in deeply transformative alchemy for your life, comment now and let me know. I will respond personally and schedule a no-obligation 30-minute heart whispering session to see if this is right for you.
I write through tears today, grieving the sudden loss of a loved one. Preparing to navigate this day, a healing by a wild thing earlier this year jumps forefront to my mind. Knowing you have much on your mind and heart as well, I offer this to buoy your spirits and encourage your journey.
At the end of two fulfilling but exhausting mid-summerweeks, I longed to curl up in a puddle for a brief lunch break. I headed for the sofa, but my breath caught as my daughter’s insistent voice sounded up the stairs.
“Mom, we have an issue.”
Sighing, I gathered the few remaining tendrils of strength to tend the “issue” before my world changed.
A hawk with golden eyes was staring directly at me, held in my daughter’s arms.
The hawk (likely a Cooper’s) had run into a window and stunned itself. To the best of my knowledge, no bird has EVER heretofore run into our basement windows. There are no feeders nearby and no other birds frequent this underdeck area.
We went outside to a safe space overlooking the river. Settling weary bones onto the wooden deck, I expected to wait quietly a few feet away while hawk recovered. Hawk had something entirely different in mind…and hopped right into my lap! Talons pierced deeply into my skin, drawing blood, but hawk clearly meant no harm – only desiring companionship. Hawk placed her head over my heart, angling under my left arm while I stroked her marvelous feathers.
Grateful but in pain, I gently detached her talons and set hawk down, returning with jeans on to protect tender flesh. My exhaustion eased as we took comfort in each other, this wild, magical creature and I.
I transferred her to my daughter and gathered a bit of venison for hawk’s nourishment (for which she was most grateful!). Regaining strength, she lifted onto the railing, silently looking at me for a few minutes before flying away.
I thought that was the end of the story, but she landed on my van a few hours later before roosting on a branch outside our window overnight.
Is your body screaming at you? Out beyond the altar of doing more, faster, there is a space of awareness, wisdom and compassion. I’ll meet you there. May these true confessions of an alchemist guide your way.
Ever look at yourself with a sense of humor?
I had a bumper crop of that recently, three days post-abdominal surgery.
I was under general anesthesia, complete with a breathing tube. Since I was released from the hospital the same day, I expected I would feel fine and have a great excuse to take a few days off and bond with my kids.
Check out my weekend to-do list:
Make fresh yogurt from scratch,
Teach my kids how to make natural facial sprays and masques, Watch a thought-provoking movie w my daughters followed by a life-enhancing discussion,
Re-cover the antique footstools from my office,
Complete my personal tax prep,
Write an article on “The Mystic” for a new online magazine
Want to guess what actually happened?
None of the above.
Bet you saw that coming.
Surgery went well, but nausea threw me to the floor.
Great news: I guarantee I’ll never become addicted to codeine, torodal, or whatever the hell else they gave me.
(Cue hysterical laughter.)
My kids got the super-fun throw-up mommy to play all weekend.
(This is definitely not one that you want to buy for your kids during holiday season.)
I got exactly no nourishment, as everything that went down, came right back up, including the anti-nausea medication.
Monday was better, but better is a relative term.
I concluded that if I wasn’t well enough to drive my kids a mile and a half to the bus, seeing clients would have to wait.
After gritting my teeth and rescheduling, I had a good talk with myself.
I asked myself the same tough but loving questions I ask my clients.
And I realized something important.
I was treating my recovery process as an inconvenient interruption of daily life.
That is some really screwy logic that deserved to be flipped on its head.
So I re-decided. My priority was to fully and completely heal at all levels….even though his meant taking more time off than I wished.
To be clear, by “time off” I mean being still instead of pushing against the necessary boundaries my body screaming alerted me to when I ignored the whispers.
Which meant there was no freshly prepared yogurt, no eco-friendly skin care line and the tattered (but beloved) foot stools will be here a bit longer.
Tax prep was delayed and that article may or may not get written in a timely fashion.
But it also means I listened to my body, rest when I needed to, recovered as quickly as possible, and walked my talk about self-care.
What good are pretty words if the the tongue they’re rolling off of isn’t true to their message?
So I ask you today, what will help you move into alignment with your healthiest self? Peek behind the fear of not being good enough, fast enough, strong enough, and inquire with love: “What do I need most in this moment?” With love and persistence, you will find yourself beginning to listen and respond to the subtle whispers instead of your body screaming. These blissful mind-body wellness strategies can help immeasurably, as can this tip on reconnecting with your body to find your joy!
Give yourself permission to take a step (or two) back and tend your deep needs right now. You are an amazingly bright being and I guarantee the world needs you WHOLE! And if you’re willing to join my true confessions, please share – where are YOU being guided to walk with more gentleness and compassion?